This morning I had Drew's kindergarten parent/teacher conference. As a teacher I did these conferences for many years but this is the first time I've been on THIS side of the table. I was very anxious to hear how she was doing and honestly, I was more interested in her social skills than her academic. We work on things at home and we do her homework everynight and I kind of know where she is academically. I just fear that socially she's the mean girl. That's who she is at home about 60% of the time - disobedient, unkind to William, bossy. I have been so fearful of that translating to outside the home and how she behaves and is perceived by her classmates and her teachers. I'm in touch with her teachers daily and nothing has ever been brought to my attention so I knew there was not going to be a bomb dropped today about her behavior being horrible but... I worry she's going to be that kid. She has always been taught otherwise but she's so strong willed and out for herself that it overshadows all she has been taught and all that she knows is right. Not everytime, but most of the time. At home, anyway. This was my chance to see how it goes down at school.
Drew's teacher said she is a complete joy to have in class. She uses Drew as an example of how to do things when asked. Drew notices when someone is having a hard day and she becomes his/her best friend. She has befriended the girl in class who has a hard time with others and often plays alone. She seeks out resources and uses them rather than depending on the teachers (she wanted to know how to spell McDonalds and instead of asking she went and got the book Old McDonald had a Farm and looked it up herself). She is always on task, listens, and participates. She is an outstanding writer and is so excited about reading she's progressing very well.
This was me:
I know from experience that kids can really exhibit different personalities depending on their environment but I really was stunned. Her teacher used the words, "caring", "mother hen", "thoughtful". I got all teary and was just pleased beyond words.
All I want is for my kids to be kind, productive citizens. That's it. They don't have to be super smart or get into the best schools, they just need to be kind and productive. I know Drew is only 5 but I was fearing that she wasn't kind. She has her moments, of course, but I wouldn't use the word kind to describe her at home so I am thrilled to pieces that her teacher used that word numerous times as a description of who she is at school. I just can't wait 'til she gets home today so I can love on her.
"Treat everyone with kindness, even those who are rude to you - not because they are nice, but because you are." ~ Mommy to Drew