I think if your marriage is intact and you pay attention to its needs, the kids are happy and loved, your house is maintained and you are a good role model with responsibility, the rest is gravy. Right? Even though I yell at my kids, am always a few days behind in laundry, and turn on the tv too often I still feel like I'm doing my job just fine. Perfection is not my goal. Niether is being Superwoman or Supermom. Mainly because the headdress looks completely ridiculous on me.