Part of me wants to think that I get it, I see what they're saying and what they're doing but the other part of me thinks they are f'ing crazy parents are jacking that kid up! I get the premise but I think it's terribly misguided. As parents we encourage and support and guide. Allowing a child to be completely without ideas and limits I believe can be confusing and difficult. Plus? Science is science. Just because you have a particular body part doesn't mean you must adhere to certain social rules but it doesn't change the fact that you DO have that particular body part. I don't know. I just don't get where they're coming from.
Drew is a girl. She has a traditionally boy's name. She only wants to wear skirts and ride bikes. She wants to dig in the dirt and wear a sparkly necklace. I don't care what she does. She's a kid and I want her to be happy. William is a boy who is sweet and sensitive and I think he'll love his mommy dearly til the day he dies. He used to love to wear Drew's tutu and sing Broadway hits. Now he loves trucks and the color blue. He's said that he may want to be a black widow for Halloween because it's awesome that black widows are all girls. I don't care what he does. He's a kid and I want him to be happy. There is no denying, however, that HE is a BOY and that SHE is a GIRL. To make their gender an issue is an issue I believe. And now, because this has been made such a big whooptie, that poor family - the parents, the two young siblings, and the genderless baby - are going to be sought after and I just can't imagine that's beneficial at all.
If you haven't seen the story, here it is:
What do you think about this?
BTW, I totally think it's a boy.
Baby Storm
If they're doing it because they don't want "societal norms" dictating who their child is, that's fine, couldn't agree more. Flying in the face of millions of years of evolution though? Good luck with that, dumbass.
ReplyDeleteSnips and snails
ReplyDeleteAnd sugar and spice
And puppy dog's tails
And everything nice...
That's what my little girls are made of!
I'm with YOU on this one. Drew is a girl...a girl who could probably jack you up with her karate moves while wearing the aforementioned skirt. My Julia paints her nails before shooting her pellet gun. I think solving the problem of forcing children into specific socially-accepted gender behaviors by denying them the right to know what their gender IS is as silly as killing a fly with an assault rifle.
With all the news stories about children who are hermaphrodites, or raised as a gender they don't feel that they are, etc etc, I get it. But statistically speaking, short of chromosomal analysis, your child is going to be the gender that they are. Hiding that gender doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me, just be supportive and open minded and let them play with and explore whatever they want.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, one of the kids on one of our soccer teams is a gorgeous little girl with a deep voice and a true hatred of all things in any way relating to girls. She doesn't like to play with girls, her favorite thing is Star Wars. She dresses like a boy despite her Mom continually trying to get dresses on her. I wonder about this child and whether someday she won't be miserable about her gender.
I would say support and encourage your child in how they feel, think and dream. Keeping secrets no, not healthy.
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